Updating ourselves

Last week on the island of Kos, I was walking on the beach with my Greek shaumbra friend, Maria.

Suddenly she said: "That facebook photo you have looks so serious, and you are not"!!

I was surprised because I recalled I was smiling on that photo. So later that evening I went to my facebook profile and checked. The photo was taken less than 11 months ago.

She was right. I was not that person any longer. I saw other things in that photo that didn’t belong to me any longer as well. 

I realized that the observer - me - had changed a lot since then. Also I realized that we are unable to perceive those aspects as long as we identify with them. We act them out and think that is what we are, whether it is being serious, shy, timid or other things.

As we become the observer we can step outside our picture and are able to see things as they are without any judgment. It just is as it is.

I decided to upload a new photo knowing I had set old aspects of myself free. They had been waiting for me to discover that they didn't actually live there any longer. They are now part of my soul, and not locked into their old story.

A computer needs updatings and upgradings about once a week. We may need to update ourselves daily, we are changing so fast now. I know for cetain that I am not the person who went on holiday to Kos 11 days ago. There is so much more of me available to me in this now. So who knows what the observer will observe tomorrow? And the day after....

 

Small Pleasures

We're locked into an understanding of life through the perspective with which we perceive and view ourselves, others, life itself.

Others can be a great help to shift perspectives.  I  watched this inspirational youtube video on facebook - a real taste of joy of life. Watch it full screen. 

We can tend to focus on our dislikes, on how intolerable things are, pity ourselves, consider life to be unfair, judge ourselves, others etc. etc.

After watching this video I spent a few minutes playing with sensing things:

As I write I feel the warmth of my hands on my PC, hear the birds outside singing, watch the sky changing its colours, obesrve the multicolored leaves of the trees moving in the wind,  the cool morning air from the open door touching my skin, still have a taste of my morning coffee in my mouth,  a coffee smell coming from the cup beside me.

Just enjoying the sensations, filling me with wordless feelings, feeling vibrantly alive, joyful, happy

Wow, I totally want to jump. Yes. yes

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We Are Only What We Choose In This Moment - On Aspects And Integration

You are so ugly! 
Have we not all heard phrases like this one?
Maybe not the same words, but statements from others that left us wordless, stunned, pinned down, don’t understanding what we hear. But the words of others can become our truth, and we believe them.


I remember incidents from my childhood where the child in me - by the mere look from adults, their demeaning words or acts would  pin me down. In another incident in school a girl, one year older than me, said to the shy and very insecure teenager:

- You're so ugly. No guy would like to have you as his girlfriend!

And for seconds she lost her breath.
The words, and the expression on her face haunted the young girl for a long time, made her believe them.
It is abuse, energetically. We all experience abuse over and over, from close family, from a mother, a father, a brother, a sister, and their word can cut themselves into our minds. Acts or words that may seem to be very innocent, seen through the eyes of an adult, can be traumatic for a child.

Later in life we are surprised to hear our own thoughts, speaking rudely to us, telling us we are ugly, stupid, not talented, not smart enough. We don’t understand why we feel so bad, why we are so angry, so sad, don’t understand why we feel worthless, insecure, hateful, etc.

We ask ourselves  "why do I feel so, where does it come from, why don’t they like me, what am I doing wrong, what are they thinking about me" etc., etc.


All these parts talking to us, either in the form of words in our heads or emotions, are aspects. Parts and pieces we have created over time. They come and go, will come out from their hiding when we least expect it.  When we suddenly find ourselves exploding with anger, we cry, feel sorry for ourselves or experience other emotional upheaval, it is aspects expressing themselves.

All the judgments we hear in our thoughts - about ourselves, about others - are aspects expressing how they were treated. They continue to express their sadness, irritability, inferiority, loneliness, anger, rage, sadness, jealousy etc.


We are the source of love, the holy grail. We have everything within. We are the one who can create the safe space, be be fully present, also when aspects make themselves known with their emotions, anger, hopelessness, sadness, irritation, etc.


There can be a tendency to blame others. However, the moment we start choosing to take responsibility for ourselves, stop blaming others for our feelings, no longer reject our aspects, they will feel it and begin to come home to us, one by one.

We don't have to accept the burden of our aspect, their thoughts, their anguish, their anger, their confusion, their lack of confidence. If we did,  we would accepting something that is not ours, not our truth.

We are only what we choose in this now. Breathe in and feel it. You are only what you choose in this now.

When we no longer reject aspects, but invite them back to the creator, the one who created them in the first place, when we 100% accept them, have compassion for them, feel safe to be the one we are, love ourselves, they will start to throw off their rags (their inferiority, disgust, frustration, hurt, loneliness, hopelessness), transform, and unite with the soul, sending them out in the first place.

And gradually our minds begin to understand that it doesn’t need control. A new trust is created. And  we begin to know and feel that we are much, much more than what that aspect said. We are the creator of our reality, each of us.

Normally aspects are healthy, balanced expression of ourselves, created by us to handle different tasks. Aspects can be the mother, the father, the musician, the warrior, the businesswoman/- man, the healer, the motorist, the part that loves to walk, the part that likes to balance things, the accountant, the child etc

Aspects can be broken, fragmented, traumatized as a result of both trauma, buying into others truths, and energetic abuse (verbally, physically, mentally.